Highly sensitive person (HSP) is a term used to describe individuals who have a heightened sensitivity to their environment and the emotions of others. This personality type was first identified by psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron in 1991 and has gained popularity in recent years. HSPs are estimated to make up around 15-20% of the population.
As HSPs, there are many positive aspects to this personality type. They are often very intuitive, empathetic, and can be good listeners and mediators. They are able to pick up on subtle cues from others and are often excellent at reading body language and facial expressions. HSPs are also often creative and have a deep connection with music and beauty.
However, there are also some challenges associated with being an HSP. One of the main challenges of being an HSP is that they absorb the emotions of others, which can lead to them becoming easily overwhelmed and stressed in social situations. Additionally, they tend to perceive every little detail, including slight changes in tone of voice and facial expressions, even if they are unintentional. This can be distressing for them when they sometimes take things too seriously.
Another challenge for HSPs is that they often take things too slowly. They need time to process and reflect on things before making decisions, which can be frustrating for those around them who want to move quickly. Additionally, they have a tendency to bottle up their anger, resentment, and hurt feelings. This can lead to emotional outbursts or health issues if not addressed.
It is not possible to change HSP’s inherent sensitivity, however, there are some things they can do to reduce their sensitivity in certain situations. To avoid becoming overwhelmed by their sensitivity or overthinking a situation or battling intrusive thoughts, one way is through the skill of Cognitive Defusion, which involves separating oneself from their thoughts and looking at them objectively rather than through them.
- Name your thoughts, such as “thank you mind”
- Use singing and silly voices to detach from your thoughts
- Jumble your words to disrupt overthinking patterns
- Put your thoughts onto objects, like writing them down and burning them or throwing a rock
These techniques can help HSPs avoid becoming too sensitive to their thoughts and feelings. With practice, cognitive defusion can help them break free from patterns of overthinking and intrusive thoughts.
For those around HSPs, it is important to understand and accept their sensitivity. This means being patient and understanding when they need to take breaks or avoid certain situations. It is also important to communicate clearly and avoid being confrontational. HSPs are more likely to become overwhelmed and stressed in conflict situations, so it is important to approach them with kindness and empathy.
Being an HSP is both a blessing and a curse. While it can be challenging, it is also a gift. By understanding and accepting their sensitivity, they can learn to manage it and use it to their advantage. By embracing their differences and learning to communicate effectively, we can all enjoy happier and more fulfilling relationships.